Lecture 2 – Emotional Intelligence–Part 2

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Lecture 2 – Emotional Intelligence–Part 2
2011-11-16 14:45:09

Lecture 2 – Emotional Intelligence–Part 2, JBLSUSF, VLI, FAll 2011
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  1. #1—Domain & Directive: “I want to be _______ by _______”
    #2—Goal-Centered: “To become a _____, I must reach _____, then _____,etc.”
    #3—Action Planning (checklists): “I must accomplish the following: 1. ___, 2. ___, etc.”
    #4—Existential Planning: “We’ll see what happens…and we’ll get there”
    Recognize the Learning Agenda (Discovery #4) and its Four Planning Styles. (Sect.
  2. Tool #2 – Learning Styles
    Learning involves two major processes
    The way we TAKE IN information
    The way we USE information
    Recognize the Kolb Learning Style Inventory and its two continuums. (Sect.
  3. No plan (learning agenda) is useful UNLESS you start doing something different
    - Experimentation is TRYING something different to see if it works
    Feedback is critical
    - Trusting and Supporting Relationships consist of people who can be trusted to give upfront and frank feedback
    - Not threatened by criticism – live by “TELL ME MORE”
    - AAR’s (After-Action Reviews) – Military approach to learning and adjustments without blame
    - Don’t forget your own reflections
    There is value in experimenting in a “safe” environment
    - Consider different context (home, etc.) to avoid default mode traps
    Recognize the aspects of Experimentation (Sect. 10.3.1–10.3.3
  4. 10.4.1 Once you find something that works (through experimentation), do it over and over again until it becomes routine
    10.4.2 “Amateurs practice until they get it right. Professionals practice until they can’t get it wrong.”
    Recognize the aspects of Practice (Sect. 10.4.1–10.4.2).
  5. 1. Unconscious Incompetence
    2. Conscious Incompetence
    3. Conscious Competence
    4. Unconscious Competence = Mastery
    Recognize the Four Stages of reaching “professional” status
  6. 5. Summarize (in 5 paragraphs) the EI Intentional Change Process (Sect. 5 diagram) and its each of its
    Discoveries #1-5 (Sect. 6-10).
    See your notes
  7. Daily complex decisions that affect people’s lives and are made in an environment of uncertainty
    Unavoidable part of being a leader
    Routine, not periodic. General isolation of pastors and leaders
    Fewer genuine and honest friendships and supporting relationships
    People behave differently around the
    Recognize the two reasons why leaders experience Power Stress (Sect. 11.2.2)
  8. Pastors and leaders are constantly sacrificing themselves – it is a FACT
    Recognize the results of Power Stress
  9. Core values erode
    Increasingly operate “in the moment” – everything is a crisis or a threat
    -Burnout & depression
    Physical deterioration
    -Ulcers, high blood pressure, risk of stroke or heart attack, suppressed immune system and increased frequencies of sickness all statistically correlated to power stress
    Loss of resilience and an inability to recover resulting in a downward spiral (like the loss of air out of a balloon)
    Loss of Emotional Intelligence
    -Slide into Dissonance
    -Tired, restless, brittle, can’t “hear”, focus narrowed, unrealistic view of reality
    Recognize the consequences of Power Stress. (Sect. 11.3)
  10. Understanding the Cycle of Sacrifice and Renewal
    Recognize the solution to Power Stress and the components of the Cycle of Sacrifice and Renewal. (Sect. 11.4, including diagram) **SEE NOTES FOR THE DIAGRAM**
  11. Mindfulness, Hope and Compassion
    Recognize the three components of Renewal. (Sect. 11.5)
  12. Intentional and conscious awareness:
    -Of God
    -Of Self
    -Of Others
    In the context of our lives
    Not born in us … but can be learned … and can be lost
    Recognize the description of Mindfulness (Sect. 11.6.2-11.6.4)
  13. Everything is related (holistic): mind, body, heart, and spirit
    - Mind—thinking, intellect
    - Body— physical health: eating right, exercise, etc.
    - Heart—emotional health and social relationships
    - Spirit—intimacy with Jesus, devotional life and worship
    Recognize which four inter-related areas must be addressed to be “mindful” from a Biblical viewpoint (Sect. 11.6.5).
  14. Recognize how the EI notion of Hope is related to the Christian concept of Faith. (Sect. 11.9)
    • 11.9.1 Definition of Hope:
    • EI Definition of Hope
    • “Hope enables us to believe that the future we envision is attainable and to move forward toward our vision and goals.”
    • Sound like Faith?
    • Hebrews 11:1 – “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.”
  15. Empathy or caring in action:
    1. Understanding and empathy for others
    2. Caring about others
    3. Willingness to act on those feelings
    Recognize the EI definition of Compassion and its three components