Dysfunctional Family Dynamics

Card Set Information

Author:
alyn217
ID:
196001
Filename:
Dysfunctional Family Dynamics
Updated:
2013-02-05 00:15:38
Tags:
MHT3
Folders:

Description:
Mental Health
Show Answers:

Home > Flashcards > Print Preview

The flashcards below were created by user alyn217 on FreezingBlue Flashcards. What would you like to do?


  1. Function vs. Dysfunctional families
  2. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Doers:
    • Provides: most maintenance functions
    • Does so much, feels:
    • Tired
    • Lonely
    • Taken advantage of
    • Neglected
    • Empty
    • Gets satisfaction out of being accomplished
    • Feels good when does

    Problem:  Unhealthy guilt & overdeveloped sense of responsibility
  3. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Enablers/Helpers
    • Provides: nurturance & sense of belonging
    • May also be Doer
    • Avoids conflict
    • Smoothes out situations
    • Fears abandonment
    • Fears family members cannot stand on own
    • Problem:  Tries to keep family together at all cost
    • Even in presence of violence or death
  4. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Lost child/loner
    • Deals with family dysfunction by escape
    • Provides:  separateness & autonomy
    • Stays to self and plays alone
    • Aloneness is not healthy
    • Often overlooked because rarely causes trouble
    • Problem:  Has a deep loneliness
  5. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Hero
    • Provides: self-esteem
    • Is a high achiever
    • Secretly feels guilty about praise over other members
    • Makes the family proud
    • Problem:  Pays a price in what he/she wants to do
  6. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Mascot
    • Often one of the youngest
    • Provides:  humor
    • Gives the family a sense of fun and playfulness
    • The mascot’s true feelings never get expressed
    • Problem:  Can be an emotional cripple
  7. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Scapegoat
    • Provides: a way to act out the family dysfunction
    • Takes the blame for the family
    • Is the “black sheep”
    • Gets drug addicted, in trouble with the law, etc.
    • May have negative behavior and create controversy
    • If this member wasn’t a delinquent, the family would be healthy
    • Problem:  Costs the person quite a lot 
  8. Roles of dysfunctional family members.
    Dad’s little princess/
    Mom’s little man:
    • A form of emotional abuse.
    • The child becomes a little spouse to a parent and feels good.
    • Denied being child & boundaries violated.
    • Parent afraid or too dysfunctional to get needs met by another adult
    • Problem:  End up in abusive relationships as adults because boundaries were violated as child
  9. Roles of dysfunctional family members
    The saint/Nun/Rabbi/Priest/Preacher
    • Provides:  Spirituality
    • Consciously molded into role
    • Problem:  Feels has no worth if not perform role
  10. In a functional family a child can?
    • Have a sense of acceptance and worth
    • Make mistakes and be responsible for them without being abused
    • Be separate and not be lonely
    • Have fun
    • Have spirituality
    • Have a voice
    • Discuss things openly
    • Feel safe
  11. What are the "rules" of a dysfunctional family?
    • It’s not OK to talk about problems
    • It’s not OK to express feelings openly
    • Don’t address issues or relationships directly
    • Always be strong, be good, be perfect
    • Don’t be selfish
    • Do as I say not as I do
    • It’s not OK to play
    • Don’t rock the boat
    • Don’t talk about sex
  12. What happens in families with weak/diffuse boundaries?
    • Weak and permeable
    • Lacks organization
    • No sense of family 
    • The line between child and parent is not clear
    • No sense of unity
    • Putting children in adult roles violates boundaries
    • No one seems to be in charge
    • There are no clear rules and limits
    • Doesn’t feel like a family
    • Can happen after a divorce
  13. What happens in a family with very rigid boundaries?
    • Person/family is protected and at a cost         
    • Parents 
    • Have difficulty expressing love
    • Are not emotionally or physically present 
    • Won’t empathize with children
    • Won’t play with children
    • Will appear uncaring, distant and detached 
    • Child:
    • will feel alone and unloved

What would you like to do?

Home > Flashcards > Print Preview