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Criticism will not upset
the person who receives the criticism.
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If they are important to me AND expect me to do something,
I do not have to do it.
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My value as a person
does not depend on what you think of me.
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I do not need your approval
to be happy.
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I do not give up my own interest
in order to please you.
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Being isolated from you
does not make me unhappy.
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If I love you BUT you do not love me,
it does not mean I am un-lovable.
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If I care about you and you reject me,
it does not mean something is wrong with me.
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If you dislike me,
I am not bound to be less happy.
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I can find happiness
without being loved by you.
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I do not need to be useful, productive, creative
for my life to have purpose.
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I do not need to be outstanding, in at least one major respect,
to be worthwhile.
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Failure at work or school
does not mean I am a failure.
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If I do not do as well as you,
it does not mean I am a failure.
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People who have good ideas
are not more worthy than me.
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If I am a good husband, significant other, etc.,
you are not obligated to love me.
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If I put your needs before mine,
it does not mean you will reciprocate.
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Obstacles to getting what I want
is not a reason to get frustrated.
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My belief that I deserve something
is no reason to expect getting it.
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If I do nice things for you,
it does not mean you are obliged to reciprocate.
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It is not shameful
for me to display my weaknesses.
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If I cannot do something well,
it does not mean there is no point in doing it.
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Not setting high standards
does not make me second rate.
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I am not upset
if I fuck-up.
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I do not have to be good or best
at everything I undertake.
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