anything that distorts communication such that it is harder for people to understand each other. can be physical, psychological, semantic, and so forth
the responsibility for remembering, planning, and coordinating domestic work and child care. In general, women assume this for child care and housework even though both partners may share the actual tasks.
the active process of selecting, organizing, and interpreting people, objects, events, situations and activities
elements (such as energy, money, time, and emotion) put into a relationship that cannot be recovered should the relationship end. increases commitment.
Beliefs, understandings, practices, and ways to interpret experience that are shared by a group of people
In our interpretation of experience, the number of constructs used, how abstract they are, and how elaborately they interact to create perceptions.
Defines the beginning and ending of interaction or interaction episodes. this is subjective.
Fairness based on the perception that both partners should invest roughly equally in a relationship and benefit similarly from their investments.
The process of creating a physical environment that is comfortable and reflect's one's values, experiences and tastes. Physical environment is part of relational culture, which is the nucleus of intimacy.
The assumption that one's own culture and its norms are the only right ones. Reflects certainty, which tends to create defensive communication climates.
A decision to remain with a relationship. One of three dimensions of enduring romantic relationships, this has greater influence on relationship continuity than love alone.
An abstract, arbitrary, and ambiguous representation of a phenomenon
Our experience and interpretation of internal sensations as they are shaped by physiology, perceptions, language, and social experience.
Granting forgiveness or putting aside our personal need in favor of someone else's when it is not required or expected. Reflects generosity of spirit.
A private world of rules, understandings and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create to give meaning to their relationship; the nucleus of intimacy
communication about communication. When excessive, as in unproductive conflict interaction, this becomes self-absorbing and diverts partners from the issues causing conflict
The theory that people apply economic principles to evaluate their relationships in terms of costs and benefits, and that people are satisfied only in relationships in which the benefits outweigh the costs.
social exchange theory
Opposing forces, or tensions, that are normal parts of all relationships. The three are autonomy/intimacy, novelty/routine, and openness/closedness.
Behavior that increases perceptions of closeness between communicators
One of three dimensions of enduring, committed romantic relationships. Refers to feelings of closeness, connection, and tenderness between lovers.
Intensely positive feelings and desires for another person. One of the three dimensions of enduring romantic relationships, this is based on the rewards of involvement and is not equivalent to commitment