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  1. .
    • 1) Intention
    • What is the positive purpose or intention of this belief?

    • 2) Redefining
    • What is another word for one of the words used in the belief statement that means something similar but has more positive implications?

    • 3) Consequence
    • What is a positive effect of the belief or the relationship defined by the belief?

    • 4) Chunk down
    • What smaller elements or chunks are implied by the belief but have a richer or more positive relationship than the ones stated in the belief?

    • 5) Chunk up
    • What larger elements or classes are implied by the belief but have a richer or more positive relationship than the ones stated in the belief?

    • 6) Analogy
    • What is some other relationship which is analogous to that defined by the belief, a metaphor, but which has different implications?

    • 7) Change Frame Size
    • What is a larger or shorter time frame, larger or smaller number, larger or smaller perspective that would change the implications of the blief to be something more positive?

    • 8) Another Outcome
    • What other outcome or issue could be more relevant than the one stated or implied by the belief?

    • 9) Model of The World
    • What is a different model of the world that would provide a very different perspective on this belief?

    • 10) Reality Strategy
    • What cognitive perceptions of the world are necessary to have built this belief? How would one need to perceive the world in order for this belief to be true?

    • 11) Counter Example
    • What is an example or experience that is an exception to the rule defined by the belief?

    • 12) Hierarchy of Criteria
    • What is a criterion that is potentially more important than those adressed by the belief that has not yet been considered?

    • 13) Apply to Self
    • How can you evaluate the belief statement itself according to the relationship or criteria defined by the belief?

    • 14) Meta Frame
    • What is a belief about this belief that could change or enrich the perception of the belief?
  2. 1)Intention
    4)Chunk down
    5)Chunk up
    7)Change frame size
    8)Another outcome
    9)Model of the world
    10)Reality Strategy
    12)Hierarchy of Criteria
    13)Apply to Self
    14)Meta Frame
    Sleight of mouth is among other things a way to deal with limiting beliefs.

    Usually there is more than one answer, for example there might be several intentions behind a belief, leading to several potential patterns.

    Patterns also overlap, for example chunking is often a form of redefining.
  3. 1)Intention
    "MY INTENTION WASN'T to be late or uncaring, BUT TO finish my work so I could spend the highest quality time with you"

    *Klargör din egen avsikt, eller utmana deras. Här är det ganska lätt att bygga rapport jämfört med vissa andra patterns. Vanligt att folk använder intention "det var inte min avsikt att..", men utan att förklara VAD deras avsikt var, det tror jag inte funkar någe vidare.

    -Why are they saying this, what is the secondary gain, what are they trying to get?
  4. 2)Redefining
    "I'M NOT LATE, i was DELAYED"

    *Omdefiniera kort och gott deras betydande presuppositioner till något som kan te sig likadant, men har en annan innebörd inom kontexten!

    -What other meaning could the complex equivalents have? Could 1+1=3?
  5. 3)Consequence
    "If I hadn't been late I COULD HAVE LOST MY JOB, but I cared to much about you for that to happen."

    *Det som är eller som du gjort är tvunget, för annars hade hemska ting hänt.

    -What would happen to the client if they continue to think this way?
  6. 4)Chunk down
    "How specifically does lateness mean not caring?"

    *Du går ner på detaljer, och gör det med en klassisk metamodellformulering.
  7. 5)Chunk up
    "Are you saying THE MOST FUNDAMENTALaspect of our relationship IS just a question of time?"

    • * Gå helt enkelt högre i hierarkin; vad har deras nuvarande presuppositioner för betydelse för ett större perspektiv?
    • Enklast är att bara använda metamodellen; "for what purpose?" "what is this an example of?" "whats important about this"?

    (Denna kan naturligtvis också vara en meta-frame, hierarchy of ideas, change frame size)
  8. 6)Analogy
    "If a surgeon is late for dinner because he's saving someones life,does that mean he doesn't care about eating?"

    *Helt enkelt en metafor eller liknelse som hanterar avsedda presuppositioner.

    -Just tell a metaphor or story about the solution
  9. 7)Change frame size
    "Better late then NEVER"

    "With the WARM CARING RECEPTION I get when I do get her I should be risking my life every spare minute just to get here"

    *Ändra framen till att omfatta ett mycket större perspektiv (i ovanstående exempel, evigheten istället för just denna dag/timme), eller till att omfatta mer stoff, i ovanstående exempel även medpartens beteende.

    -Chunk up to a universal quantifier
  10. 8)Another outcome
    "Whether I'm late or not ISN'T THE ISSUE, but THE ISSUE IS whether or not we can meet eachothers needs in this relationship, without laying any unnecessary trips on one another."

    *Avfärda att det personen sagt är anledning eller ämne är det, och föreslå ett annat.

    -What is another outcome we could shift to?
  11. 9)Model of the world
    "MOSTPEOPLE I KNOW JUDGE CARING ON the basis of your sensitivity to other peoples feelings, NOT ON your awareness of time"

    "It's not that I don't care, it's just that I show my caring differently"

    *Liknar reality strategy, men kanske ffa kontrasterar mot andra människors models of the world, och bryr sig mindre om HUR man nått fram till sin åsikt, utan utmanar den bara rakt av.

    -Is this true in everyones model of the world?
  12. 10)Reality Strategy
    "HOW DO YOU KNOW lateness and caring are equivalent?"

    *Ifrågasätt vad de använt för reality strategy för att komma fram till sin ståndpunkt. (i ovanstående exempel genom att utmana en complex equivalent)

    -How would you know if its not true?
  13. 11)Counterexample
    "Is it possible to be late and still care? Is it possible to be punctual and careless?"

    *Motexempel på när x inte = y, dvs du introducerar lite quantum linguistics samtidigt som du utmanar deras reality strategy och model of the world.

    -Invert the belief, or make it into a universal quantifier, or question universal quantifier or complex equivalent.
  14. 12)Hierarchy of Criteria
    "Isn't it more important to FULFILL MY RESPONSIBILITY to the PEOPLE WHO DEPEND ON ME than to be PUNCTUAL"

    *postulera fler, och viktigare värden för er båda, och kör dem i hierarki

    -What are higher values?

    -Apply current value to current sentence
  15. 13)Apply to Self
    "A really CARING person would be able to overlook a little tardiness now and then."

    "Now you tell me? I wish you would have CARED enough about me to tell me earlier".

    *Använd det viktigaste ordet i den andra personens mening, och släng tillbaka det mot dem

    -Grab a hold of the most important word in their sentence, and apply to self, don't think, just throw it back
  16. 14)Meta Frame
    "YOU only FEEL THAT WAY BECAUSE you build unrealistic expectations about people, and then blame it on them when you are disappointed"

    *Jag antar att det mest är en fråga om att chunka upp, hitta en större frame - t.ex VARFÖR de blir besviken

    -Ask yourself: How is it possible that they could believe that?
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