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Sternberg triangular theory of love) (2)
-love made up of intimacy, passion, commitment
-combined in various ways to form 7 types of loves
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) intimacy love
Intimacy alone
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) companionate love
intimacy and commitment
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) commitment love
- commitment alone
- *empty love
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) fatuous love
-passion and commitment
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) passion love
- Passion alone
- *infatuation alone
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) romantic love
Intimacy and passion
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Sternberg triangular theory of love) consummate love
-intimacy + passion + commitment
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Marketplace theory) (2)
Women more likely to value status in a mate
Men more likely to value attraction
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Marketplace theory draws upon evolutionary theory) males reproductive success
Frequent pairings thus look for youth which equates to healthier and more attractive
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Marketplace theory draws upon evolutionary theory) females reproductive succes
Provider thus looks for status which equates to more resources and more attractive
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Support for evolutionary theory (3)
-men prefer younger partners and say appearance is important
-women look for ambitious hard working men
-men are more threatened with sexual infidelity while women emotional infidelity
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Criticisms of evolutionary theory)
-they are circular, unbeatable, and oversimplified
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Alternate explanation for evolutionary theory
-overall women have fewer resources thus may want somebody who has more resources
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Women's economic resources and their preference for a physically attractive man
If woman has a lot of resources then they will look for attractive man and not gold dig
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Where do these originate from?
relationship with primary caregiver
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attachment styles) why are these important?
bc they translate to how individuals act in romantic relationships
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3 attachment styles) secure (2)
-Easy to get close to others
-no worrying about abandonment
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3 attachment styles) avoiding (3)
-uncomfortable getting close
-jealousy
-fear of intimacy
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3 attachment styles) anxious/ambivalent
-seek intimacy but worry that others wont reciprocate or stay
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3 attachment styles) what Is coping strategy for secure?
Talking to your partner
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3 attachment styles) what is coping strategy of avoidant?
distancing
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3 attachment styles) coping stregy for anxious/ambivalent
rumination
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3 attachment styles) what are relationships like in secure
Happy, friendly, trusting relationships
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3 attachment styles) relationships in avoidant?
Relatively brief sexual encounters
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3 attachment styles) relationships in anxious/ambivalent?
Obsession, jealousy, love at first sight
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Gender differences in attachment styles?
Men more likely to be avoidant and women anxious
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Interdependence theory (social exchange) (2)
-rewards and costs that partners exhcange
-people try to maximize rewards and minimize costs
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Interdependence theory) what is our satisfaction in relationships determined by? (4)
-rewards
-costs
-comparison level
-comparison level for alternatives
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Interdependence theory) comparison level?
-quality of outcomes a person believes he or she deserves
- *reflects past relationship experiences
- *our personal belief about what constitutes an acceptable relationship
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Interdependence theory) comparison level for alternatives
Assessing how our relationship competes to others that are available
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Interdependence theory) outcomes: below CL-alt and below CL
Dissatisfied and not dependent
**leaves
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Interdependence theory) outcomes: above CL-alt and below cl
Dissatisfied but still dependent
***stay
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Interdependence theory) outcomes: above cl and below cl alt?
Satisfies and no dependent
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Interdependence theory) outcomes: above cl and above cl alt?
- Satisfied and dependent
- *Stay
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Investment model)
Commitment is affected by satisfaction, potential alternatives, & investment
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Investment model) which theory is this expanding from
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Interdependence theory
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Investment model) satisfaction (3)
-costs
-rewards
- -comparison levels
- *varies among indivudlas
- *what do you deserve
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Investment model) commitment determine by?
-satisfaction
-investments
-alternatives
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Investment model) commitment determined by: satisfaction (2)
-Rewards vs costs
-exceed CL
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Investment model) commitment determined by: investments
Things can't take back
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Investment model) commitment determined by: alternatives
Others that you can date
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Investment model) what does commitment predict?
Whether you stay or go
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Equity theory)
relationship satisfaction determined by the ratio of benefits to contributions (can be positive or negative)
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Equity theory) ideal formula
Your benefits = partners beenfits
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Equity theory) why is being not equal in contributions not good?
Both under and over benefited people feel stress
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Communal realtionships
Relationships governed by the need for equity
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Communal relationships
Relationships where the primary concern is being responsive to the other person needs
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Communal orientations equate
Close friendships & meaningful romantic relationships
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Exchange orientations equate to
Superficial interactions with strangers and acquaintances
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Participants interacted with an attractive person who was either new in town and wanted to make friends or just visiting: study findings
People in communal orientation condition were less interested in fit for tat accounting outcomes
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Exchange relationships behavior (4)
-immediate oayment
Own contribution
-cares but expects a future payback
-helping other doesn't affect mood
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Communal realitonship behavior? (4)
-no immediate payment
-our work
-cares about others needs
-helping other feels good
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Breaking up) 2 dimensions
-active vs passive
-constructive vs destructive
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Breaking up) 4 types of behaviors
-exit
-voice
-loyalty
-neglect
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Breaking up) rusbult grid findings: active and destrcutive
Exit= harming or terminating relationship
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Breaking up) rusbult grid findings: active constructive
voice= trying to improve conditions
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Breaking up) rusbult grid findings: passive destructive
neglect= allowing conditions to deteriorate
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Breaking up) rusbult grid findings: passive constructive
Loyalty: optimistically waiting for improvement
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