Card Set Information
1. Sexuality (development; misconceptions)
o Sexuality is influenced by the values we learned in our family
o Cultural values & Familial expectations
o Abstinence is a valid choice
o Honestly question yourself
o What are your reasons for choosing to have or not have sex?
o How do you feel about discussing sex?
o Define your boundaries and enforce them
2. guilt & misconceptions
o GUILT over sexual feelings
o Lack of control?
o GUILT over sexual experiences
o masturbation, affairs, promiscuity, “abnormal” sexual practices
o MISCONCEPTIONS about sexuality
o Become aware of verbal and non-verbal messages regarding sexuality and gender-role behavior
close familiarity or friendship; closeness.
3. Sensuality vs. sexuality
- expressing ourselves through physical contact with another.
-experiencing pleasure with all 5 senses
Sensuality does not always include sexual activity
- not doing anything sexual
Immunodeficiency Virus- positive vs. Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome
all are treatable, few are curable
HPV, Genital Warts, etc.
: sterility, organ damage, and other life-threatening complications
• Loneliness vs. solitude
• LONELINESS- GENERALLY TRIGGERED BY CERTAIN LIFE EVENTS.
• -DEATH, BREAKUPS, RELOCATION
• SOLITUDE IS TIME TO…
• - BE WITH OURSELVES
• - DISCOVER WHO WE ARE
• - RENEW OURSELVES
• WE NEED TIME ALONE AS MUCH AS WE NEED HUMAN CONNECTION
• -NEED TO PROCESS OUR EXPERIENCES
• -RELAXATION FROM ALL THE WORLD’S INPUT
• Types of loneliness
• Literal-*******************Transient Loneliness
: brief feelings of loneliness that occur due to an expected or unexpected life-changing event.
• Chronic Loneliness
: occurs when people are unable to establish meaningful interpersonal relationships over a long period of time.
• Everyday Loneliness
: involves the pain of being isolated from other people.
• -associated with a fear of intimacy
• -feelings of shame
• -fear of being unlovable
• - rejection
• Existential Loneliness
: the profound sense that there is an unbridgeable gap that separates us from others.
- what you do to survive and thrive to be the best
• Effects of loneliness
– Reliving childhood experiences of loneliness can help us come to grips with our present fears about being alone or lonely.
– more likely to experience loneliness than others
-In young adulthood
_ we experiment with ways of being, and we establish
• lifestyles that may remain with us for many years.
-In middle age
-can result in new feelings of loneliness./ relate events
-In the later years
- As we age, we may lose some of our vitality and sense of power or attractiveness.
• Contrast between: Career vs. Occupation vs. Job
- day u start working and end. everything u do/ every job ull ever have
- position u hold for the moment
John Holland’s 6 occupational personality types-
-what u do for urself
• Why are humans unique?
more than just reproducing, finding meaning
-“therapy through meaning” or “
• through meaning
-are core beliefs that influence how we act.
-essential part of one’s
spiritual development, involves caring about another’s suffering and doing something
• about it.
-encompasses our relationship to the universe and is an avenue for finding meaning and purpose in living
Philosophy of life-
is made up of the fundamental beliefs, attitudes, and values that govern a person’s behavior.
Basic spiritual values
-qualities of goodness,
kindness, love, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness, human warmth, and caring.
-pertains to the knowledge, language,
values, and customs that are passed from person to person and from one generation to the next generation.
-biased behavior in action
Bias-using our own
culture or country as a standard of what is right and good and judging other cultures or countries by our own frame of reference.
-judgmental generalization applied to an individual without regard to his or her own uniqueness;
Yalom and death anxiety
-Everyday loneliness involves the pain of being isolated from other people.
This is an interpersonal loneliness often associated with the fear of intimacy
and feelings of shame, rejection, or of being unlovable. Existential loneliness (or
existential isolation) is associated with a profound sense of an unbridgeable gap that
separates us from others.
---The wish to survive and the dread
of annihilation are always present. This is a pervasive fear to live with, yet it can
teach us as much about living as dying.
• Morrie Schwartz was an elderly professor
Suicide statistics (textbook)
30,00 suicides a yr
Myths about suicide
-There are few or no warning signs for suicide.
■ People who
will not do it
than old people to kill themselves.
■ Once a suicidal
crisis has passed
, the person is
out of danger
■ Suicide is
• ■ People who attempt suicide are
intent on dying.
• Stages of dying (5)
• Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance
Suicidal thoughts and threats
of a sense of purpose in life
■ Preoccupation with death, including talk of feeling
hopeless and helpless
methods and a time for killing oneself
Anxiety, agitation, and depression
and withdrawal from friends and family
changes of behavior
and sudden personality changes
■ A sudden need to
get one’s life in order
■ A sudden
appearance of calm or peace after
during which some of these above-listed characteristics were evident
-refers to the
by a significant loss.
-pertains to the formal practices of an individual or community in response to a death
Worden’s tasks of mourning
Accept the reality of the loss.
Before mourning can begin, the death of a person
needs to be faced. Accepting this loss needs to be done both intellectually and
emotionally. For many there will be a time lag before they are able to experience
the emotional impact of the reality of a loss.
Work through the pain of grief
. When the bereaved accept the reality of their
loss, pain usually follows. Those in mourning need to experience and express
the emotional pain of a loss, and at the same time learn to nurture themselves
both physically and emotionally.
Adjust to an environment in which the deceased is missing
. Learning to develop
a new relationship with the deceased is a gradual and unfolding process.
Although the bereaved do not have to let go of all ties to the person who has
died, it is important to say good-bye and to grieve the loss.
Emotionally relocate the deceased and move on with life
. The phrase “moving on
with life” entails finding a meaningful way to live without the person who
has died. Mourners eventually need to develop a new sense of identity based
on a life without the deceased. This task involves restructuring the relationship
with the deceased in a way that is satisfying, but that also reflects the lifecircumstances that have changed after the loss.
-involves providing lethal means to cause a person’s death, with the individual performing the act that ends his or her own life
speeding up the dying process
, which can entail withholding or withdrawing life support.
- are designed to
protect the self-determination
of people who have reached a point in their illness when
they are not able to make decisions on their own about their care
Gender role socialization
learning the norms and roles
that are expected of people in a particular society
widely accepted beliefs
about females'’ and males’ abilities, personality traits, and behavior patterns
. Anima=men//animus woman
Schlossberg’s 5 paths *************************
-Continuers - keep on move on into dfferent things
-Adventurers - take on life and go
-Searchers - searching for meaning
-Easy Gliders - go with the follow
-Retreaters - give up
• Traditional female roles
-Resistant to traditional gender roles
• Limiting gender stereotypes
• poor self concept, wellbeing, and physical health
• Caretaker of the family