marriage and family

physical abuse, cheating, alcohol/drug abuse

cheating, falling out of love, different values/lifestyles

• good health
• economic security
• positive support network

trust vs. mistrust: live or die

autonomy vs. shame & doubt: can i do this by myself

Initiative vs. guilt: can I take the initiative?

Industry vs. inferiority: what am I good at?

Identity vs role confusion: who am I ?

Intimacy vs. isolation: balancing my identity with yours

Generativity vs. stagnation: what have I accomplished

Integrity vs. despair: I feel whole vs. regrets

loss of purpose and emptiness when children leave, "adjustment period"

more money, more room, more time

adult children who return home

older adults not interested in sex

• teacher role
• social status
• emotional fulfillment (legacy)

• lose androgen > develop breasts
• reduction of ejaculation
• smaller, less firm testes
• less frequent rigid ejections

• physiological
• psychological
• sociocultural

eat right, eat breakfast and low fat foods, avoid tobacco, limit caffeine and alcohol, daily exercise, at least 7 hours of sleep**

cardiovascular disease

breast cancer

influenza & common cold

• is the person in or out of the family, physical or psychological presence
• alcoholic physically present but not psychologically
• parent in military, psychologically not physically present

• adolescence:
• high family stressors low family satisfaction

• predeployment: denial/anticipation
• deployment: readjustment
• sustainment: new routine
• pre deployment: excitement
• post deployment: re-establishing emotional intimacy

• intimate terrorism, take control/physical harm
• violence resistance, self defense
• situational/couple violence: violence occurs with specific issue

• impositions
• exploitation of financial independence
• isolation
• destruction of property

alanon & alateen

• power struggles
• lack of love
• communication
• extra marital affairs
• unrealistic expectations

• lack of loving feelings
• alcoholism
• affairs

• physical abuse
• affairs
• alcoholism

• incompatibility/irreconcilable differences
• both spouses resumed equal responsibility in finances

• enhanced: divorce helped develop more fully
• competent loners: no re marry, happy single life
• good enoughs: no negative impact
• seekers: remarriage brings security/meaning
• libertines: fast lane/enjoying life (wanting something more, more risky behavior)
• defeateds: depression, drug abuse, bitterness

• social/emotional problems
• resilience more prominent

• perfect pals: spend holidays together, joint decisions
• cooperative colleagues: joint decisions, won't spend time together
• angry associated: still bitter, only connect when have to
• fiery foes: hate

• sole: child lives with 1 parent, secondary has visiting rights
• joint: parents have equal rights
• split: each parent has sole custody of one child

• emotional: deterioration of marriage
• legal: dissolution by courts, after 6 month span
• economic: money/property division
• coparental: decisions about custody, single parenting visitation rights
• community: splitting up friends groups, like movie break up
• psychological: regaining of individual autonomy

frequent conflict

low conflicted, limited communication

support each other

75%

being caught between taking care of your parents and taking care of your kids

• longevity and happiness
• more complacent couples

more stress/less satisfaction

• entering new relationship
• planning new relationship and family
• developing a stepfamily

• if they pay child support (+)
• parental hostility (-)
• physical location (-)
• remarriage (-)