Recognize how memories can be deep wounds that need deep healing and how the Gethsemane narrative is the Biblical foundation for dealing with deep wounds.
1. Deep Wounds, Deep Healing
“It is no exaggeration to say that the suffering we most frequently encounter in ministry is a suffering of memories.” Henri Nouwen, The Living Reminder
A. While many would have us believe that “the past” should be forgotten, all too often those events buried deep within lead to significant pain and dysfunction.
B. Though hidden beneath layers of defenses, deep woundings require deep healing.
- C. “By not remembering them, we allow the forgotten memories to become independent forces that can exert a crippling effect on our functioning as human beings.” Nouwen, p. 21
- D. “Also, when our memories remain covered with fear, anxiety or suspicion the word of God cannot bear fruit.” Nouwen, p. 23
- E. We build defense systems around our wounds. God does not bust down our defenses but woos us into his healing presence.
- 2. The Biblical Foundation for Dealing with Deep Wounds: Gethsemane
A. Gethsemane – Matthew 26:36-46
i. In preparation for Calvary and the cross, Jesus went to a safe place with safe people (the disciples). Jesus needed support.
a. Jesus told his disciples, “Sit here while I go over there and pray.” Than he took Peter, James and John, his closest friends, along with him. He became deeply distressed and troubled. He told them, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” (Sadly, they fell asleep. So the Father sent an angel to support Jesus because he needed it. (Lk. 22:43)
ii. Jesus dealt honestly with the Father regarding his deep pain. Jesus went before the Father to have a spiritual transaction with him:
a. Going a little farther, Jesus fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will but as you will.”
b. And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground. (Lk. 22:44)