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What are Erikson's tasks of adulthood?
establish a productive work life that permits time to relate to partners and families
choosing and committing to partner
having and raising children
What are 5 markers of adulthood?
What characterizes emerging adulthood?
continued identity exploration
feeling caught between adolescence and adulthood
adulthood optimism about future
what is parent's role in supporting growth?
How can you stay close when children leave home?
new communication methods
communication patterns mimic those with friends
often children initiate communication interactions
parents are often more cautious in giving negative feedback
siblings may experience loss as the person is no longer there daily
what is empty nest?
sad, empty feelings many parents have as children leave
What do grandchildren give to grandparents
sense of purpose
pass on values
chance to redo or undo past mistakes
can bridge relationship with their children
what is recommended for effective grand parenting?
provide support to your children, not advice
learn to wait your turn for time with kids
have close relationships by modern means of comm.
What are some sources of stress for parenting one's own parents?
possible depression and isolation
conflict with non-caregiving siblings
decisions about leaving work to meet parents' needs
What are some work policies that benefit working parents?
pay the costs of further edu
offer advancements to practice new skills attained
train on interpersonal and problem-solving skills
Parents who felt positive effects from work had what characteristics?
had jobs that demanded more days per week
who experienced less stress and autonomy at work
who had supportive supervisors and coworkers
who had more parental support from family and friends
felt they were raising their children as they wanted
parents most likely to have negative experience:
put higher priority on work than family
were more likely to be managers with relatively large responsibilities
had demanding jobs that were difficult to complete in time
had jobs that were too stimulating or not enough
had less parenting support
what are some of the characteristics of working parents?
maintain higher levels of involvement with children by increasing work load
interact more intensely with them
what are some cognitive-behavioral strategies?
i prioritize and do things that are most necessary
i plan how i'm going to use my time and energy
i take on tasks if no one else is capable or available
i limit my volunteer work
how do you delegate responsibilities?
preferences are respected in negotiating rules
household chores can be divided into categories
who provides most non-maternal care?
relative care: 50%
what are two aspects of quality in care?
nurturing, positive, responsiveness
safe, healthy and developmentally stimulating
What are ways to help a child adjust to a new family?
what percent of adoptions are adults related to the children?
at what ages do children begin to wonder why they were adopted?
What do Brodzinsky and Pinderhuges caution about adoption?
focusing on problems
obscures real benefits of adoption
What family communication patter has the largest amount of adoptive followers?
what percent of divorced men and women remarry?
what is a complex family?
family that consists of many individuals who do not live within the basic unit of parents and children but are still important
what are some myths of divorce and remarriage?
what percent of teens actually plan for a pregnancy?
describe teen fathers
what affect does church have on teen mothers?
what percent of preemies have insecure attachments to teen mothers at one year of age?
what are some protective factors for children whose parents are divorcing?
quality of child
supportive aspects of family
external social supports
describe children's behaviors when they go through a parents divorce
how many children report being bullied?
what percent of children have a serious illness?
what is the difference between grief, mourning, bereavement
grief- "heavy" normal reaction to loss- physical reaction
bereavement- "rob or plunder"- separation or loss through death
mourn- express grief, culturally prescribed behaviors
what are the Dougy Centers Guiding principles for grief?
grief is natural and expected response
each carries with him or her an innate capacity to heal
duration and intensity of grief is unique for each
caring and acceptance are helpful to a person resolving grief
Bowlby's separation stages
strategies for parental coping
form collaborative partnerships with everyone
balance needs of all family members
focus on positive aspects of the situation
emphasize commitment of all family members and helping everyone
maintain ties to other family and friends
be flexible with family roles and let others take on new roles
separating the illness from the child
what is complicated grief?
when life issues are unexpressed and become locked in frozen blocks of time
what are some common activities for children experiencing "normal grief"?
feeling that the deceased person is still with them
feeling rejected by old friends and making new ones
calling home during day
difficulty concentrating at school
what are six types of childhood loss?
loss of relationship
loss of external objects
skill or ability
four main types of abuse
neurobiological responses to maltreatment
fear creates hormones that trigger adrenal glands to produce cortisol
high cortisol helps body respond by triggering brain to shut down
children may become continuously low, less responsive
may damage the immune system and change memory functions on the brain
hyperarousal shows decline in intellectual functioning, attention and memory
poor peer relations
posttraumatic stress disorder
disorganized attachment to parent
poor emo regulation and feelings of self blame
what are some interventions for abuse
separate child from abuser
train parents to cope and parent child appropriately
therapy to help children manage feelings
activities that promote feelings of self worth, control, and social connections
interrupting cycle of abuse
common mistakes in explaining death to children
"beth lost her mommy"
"your grandma is watching you from heaven so you better be good"
"he went to sleep last night"
"he is on a long trip"
"it's god's will. he took him because he is so good"
signs of suicidal feelings
child wishes to be with deceased
hoping to punish person who died by getting even
attempting to regain power by sing, I'l leave you
child wishes to die to alleviate pain
exhibits self anger and danger
flirts with death
lose touch with reality
become preoccupied with death
cry out for health
myths about children and grief
grief and mourning are the same
child's grief is shorter
its stagelike and predictable
infants and toddlers are too young to grief
children are not affect by grieving and mourning adults
expression of tears are weak and harmful
children are better off if they don't attend funerals
adults should instantly know how to explain and help children
goal of helping should be to get over it
strategies for helping
give permission to cry
encourage funeral attendance
encourage peer support
monitor your own coping mechanisms
give plenty of love and attention
let them play