Chapter Seven

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  1. What are the six styles of loving identified by Lee?
    • 1. Love of Beauty
    • 2. Playful Love
    • 3. Companionate Love
    • 4. Obsessive Love
    • 5. Realistic Love
    • 6. Altruistic Love
  2. Who are classified under Love of Beauty?
    These lovers are passionate and intense. They seem to have an immediate and powerful attraction to physical beauty.
  3. Who are classified under Playful Love
    These lovers seem to derive the most pleasure from playing the game (interested in variety and good times and may have more than one lover at a time). They often consider love to be less important then work and believe in themselves so strongly that they feel they don't need much from others.
  4. Who are classified under Companionate Love?
    These lovers are patient; they let love grow naturally into a peaceful, enchanting affection. Based on friendship and companionship. Can become a dull routine because these relationships are stable and predictable.
  5. Who are classified under Obsessive Love?
    These lovers are consumed by and possessive of their relationship. This style combines the passion of the love of beauty with the desire to hold back feelings and manipulate the relationship found in playful love.
  6. Define Addictive Love
    Like a drug addiction, except the lover is the object of dependence. The slightest lack of enthusiasm by one partner will cause anxiety, pain, and/or jealousy in the other.
  7. Define Limerance
    A state that is commonly experienced by people who say they are in love, but is not love even though it has many characteristics of Lee's obsessive love. People will rearrange their lives in order to gain greater social and psychological proximity to the person they desire.
  8. Who are classified under Realistic Love?
    These lovers combine the control and manipulation of playful love with companionate love. Compatability is examined and sought on the basis of practicality.
  9. Who are classified under Altruistic Love?
    These lovers view love as most major religions espouse--unselfish, patient, kind, generous, never jealous, never demanding reciprocity.
  10. What is compassionate love?
    It involves reaching out to strangers in despair, thinking deeply about the well-being of others.
  11. What two types of love have the most widespread appeal?
    Altruistic and Companionate Love
  12. Relationships can be analyzed by examining what three components? And explain each.
    • 1. Intimacy-feelings of closeness, sharing, communication, and support
    • 2. Passion-physiological arousal and an intense desire to be united with the loved one
    • 3. Commitment-involves both the short-term decision to love another and the longer-term commitment to maintain it.
  13. What is Non-Love?
    Lacks intimacy, passion, & commitment; majority of relationships
  14. What is liking?
    Intimacy only
  15. What is infatuated love?
    Passion only
  16. What is empty love?
    Commitment only
  17. What is Romantic Love?
    Intimacy and Passion
  18. What is Fatuous Love?
    Commitment and Passion
  19. What is Companionate Love?
    Commitment and Intimacy
  20. What is Consummate Love
    Commitment, Intimacy and Passion
  21. Define Liking
    An attraction resulting from positive reinforcement received from other; tends to increase over time
  22. Define Passionate Love
    More complex than liking; process of experiencing emotional arousal (positive or negative) & rationalizing it as love. It can erode over time.
  23. Liking has to aspects, what are they?
    • Affection: warmth, closeness, fondness
    • Respect: others admirable characteristics
  24. Love has three components, what are they?
    • Attachment: desire to be with, approved by, & cared for by another person
    • Caring: opposite attachment, giving rather than needing
    • Intimacy: bond or link between 2; combines self-fulfillment (attachment) & self-surrender (caring)
  25. Five characteristics that are found in studies of close and intimate relationships.
    • 1. Partners like to spend time together
    • 2. They feel like they mutually influence each other
    • 3. They say they get positive feelings from the relationship
    • 4. They feel like they know and understand each other
    • 5. They want their relationship to continue
  26. What are the seven foundations of intimacy?
    • 1. Personality and Early experience
    • 2. Situational and Developmental factors
    • 3. Cultural Guidelines
    • 4. Emotional arousal and labeling
    • 5. Self-Fulfillment
    • 6. Self-Surrender
    • 7. Commitment to a joint identity
  27. Explain Personality and Early Experience
    Genetic predispositions: (Buss) Females interested in males who can protect their young; looking for resources males can invest. Males interested in female reproductive ability; looking for signs of viability
  28. Explain Attachment Theory
    • Our early experiences w/affection shape our later attempts to build intimate relationships.
    • Examples-deprived early can lead to fearing commitment to intimacy optimism about ones own future marital relationship depended on whether one perceives parents as having a good marriage.
  29. What are the three adult attachment styles?
    • 1. Secure
    • 2. Avoidance
    • 3. Anxious/Ambivalent
  30. Explain the attachment style "secure"
    • happy, trusting, accepts partner despite faults
    • love rises & falls
    • some love never fades
  31. Explain the attachment style "avoidant"
    • fears intimacy, experiences emotional extremes & jealousy
    • love is an illusion, if it exists, it doesn't last long
    • worries that partners will want more from them than they can give
  32. Explain the attachment style "Anxious/Ambivalent"
    • Combination of obsessive love & love of beauty
    • emotional extremes
    • easy to fall in love
    • worries excessively that partner doesn't want him or her/won't stay
  33. Explain Situational and Developmental Factors
    • Circumstances can affect whether or not we develop relationships with others.
    • Examples:
    • People who work together can develop relationships influenced by work factors.
    • Spring fever: environmental changes can affect ones feelings of intimacy
    • Stage in life: love for a suburban child of 6, a 21 year old first bride, a middle-age divorcee, & an older widow in a nursing home.
    • Intimacy readiness: unhappy bachelor/ette, college senior, unhappily married person
  34. Explain Cultural Guidelines
    • We learn the normative boundaries for types of intimate relationships from our culture.
    • Our culture provides guidelines around which we are expected to structure our perceptions & behavior in intimate relationships.
  35. Explain Emotional Arousal
    • Must acknowledge the role of body chemistry in experiencing intimate relationships.
    • Oxytocin: the love drug; a hormone that promotes close, intimate bonds, nurturing behavior
    • Phenylethylamine (PEA): amphetamine-related; triggers euphoria & energizes romantic relationships
  36. Explain Emotional Labeling
    • Another one of the foundations of intimacy is emotional labeling.
    • One way we try to understand our emotions = by labeling them.
    • Doing so influences 1. Our expectations for type of relationship2. Perceptions of/behavior toward other3. Motivation to expend energy for relationship
  37. Explain Self-Fulfillment
    • Assumption -
    • Affection
    • Self-esteem needs
    • Security needs
    • Freedom needs
    • Equality needs
  38. In Self-Fulfillment, explain affection
    related to sense of belonging; sex is a minimal and basic requirement for affection
  39. In Self-Fulfillment, explain self-esteem needs
    Must recognize/deal with ways to communicate self-respect, recognition, appreciation, & status. Need to think about own identity before you can contribute much to a joint identity.
  40. In Self-Fulfillment, explain security needs
    physical & psychological security; absence of threat, ego-supported, & some amount of predictiveness (control)
  41. In Self-Fulfillment, explain freedom needs
    self-reliance, independence; can only feel fulfilled when partners do not feel too limited/restrained by relationship
  42. In Self-Fulfillment, explain equality needs
    superiority vs. subordinate (power), a balance of involvement in relationship
  43. What are four ways People Adapt to an Unfulfilling Relationship
    • Telling yourself satisfactions will be forthcoming
    • Seeking satisfactions from other relationships
    • Waiting for external forces to dissolve so exit from relationship = easier
    • Taking dissatisfaction out on partner & feeding neurotically on mutual misery.
  44. Explain Self-Surrender
    • Process of evaluation in which you ask Whereas self-fulfillment dealt w/needing, self-surrender deals w/giving.
    • Assumption: extent to which one is willing to give to other reflects degree of intimacy he/she feels.Those who love us best won’t hesitate to help us out, no matter what

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