Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
For whatever does not procede from faith is sin.
1 Sam 16:7
For man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks upon the heart.
For whatever comes fromthe flesh cannot please God.
Ps 78:19, 21-22
They grumbled against God in the desert saying, "Can God spread a banquet table in the desert?" Therefore, when the LORD heard, he was full of wrath; a fire was kindled against Jacob, his anger rose against Israel because they did not believe in God and did not rust his saving power.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them
Therefore it does not depend on man's desire or effort but on the will of God.